I can’t even type this with a straight face. According to a recent study, Dallas was rated the third city best for dating…WHERE? Who conducted this study? What was the target demographic surveyed? Bruh, I have sooooooo many questions for the who conducted and participated in the study. Let me see that data!
Dating in your thirties, your late thirties, is ummm, interesting. There have been enough frogs, demons,lol that we clearly know what we want. There are amazing guys still in the area so they say, if you know some….
This is less about them and more about us. After the most recent person, yea I was heartbroken and sometimes I still am…for the memories. But because I know what I want..my yes, my no, what are compromise areas, dating can become challenging.
Dating apps started to change the way we could meet people. I don’t believe any of us were prepared for how it would change. There are some pluses, you could match with a guy you’ve seen here and there, that was afraid to approach you or you could match with a guy, who you would never cross paths with. I have friends who married a person they met through social media. Then 2020 hit..dating apps became the only way you could meet anyone. We were stuck inside. Some of us..me suffering from cabin fever….When dating apps entered that chat, the art of dating vanished.
I know you are probably thinking, “Mahoganie, where are you going with this…” We, you, me deserve to be happy, loved but it’s up to YOU to determine what that looks like. You may want a spouse, a partner or be like nah, I just want my pet. Bet, do you and know, I’m in your corner as long as you made that decision for you after intentional processing. Don’t make a decision on expectations and in the South, it can be uncomfortable explaining why I’m not married with 2.5 kids what does that even mean? Who came up with that!? Hello asking from 2024 if it’s be reevaluated and updated. I mean I have three pups, LMAO
As I have stated before, in my last relationship there are parts of me I loved; let down my guard down, the fact I can relax and be playful and just enjoy spending time with someone. Quality time is my biggest love language. But there were a few regrets, nah, I don’t like..there are few authentic lessons that I learned that I need to work on and NOT take on. We unpack, we learn from that, and leave those negative thoughts and distractions and continue to be our fabulous selves.
I believe in transparency, and want to bring y’all along on this dating journey. Who am I becoming, lol. I want to share because some of those things we think or have been told are super important may be superficial or surface level. Or maybe something good or bad happens and you think I want to take that/not take that into my next date, relationship ..
Soooo as cuffing season approaches despite the ninety degree weather, and you start to get those “hey big head”, “this made me think of you”, you know those you don’t want to hear from..I want you to follow after me. Grab their hand, metaphorically, and walk they ASS back to the friend-zone, back to that blocked number list, back to wherever they been. BEFORE you get in your feels, turn on that livest playlist and go twerk something! If you need a playlist I can send one right to you.
And don’t be shy..if you are dating or your like oooohhh, I have some stories, seriously message me! We can hot mess and thrive together.
May the rest of the week bring you joy, may you shine bright, and I hope you walk into any space knowing who the **** you are!
Until next time Lovey(s)
Xoxo,
Mahogz